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This is Part 2 of “Ignite and Settle.” Part 1, The Quality and Time of Companionship , described the act of “running when someone gets close.” This part focuses on its origins and repair. Part 3 will describe anxious attachment — its mirror, with which it is biting at the bottom. 1. First, get the terminology right In the Chinese context, what people often call “avoidant personality” is more accurately avoidant attachment or emotional avoidance — not necessarily the clinical “Avoidant Personality Disorder” (AvPD). ...

This is Part 1 of the “Ignite and Settle” series. Part 2 is on avoidant attachment — why we want to run when someone gets close. Part 3 is on anxious attachment — why we keep seeking reassurance in love. You can enter from any of the three. Read together, they form one map. Opening: A deceptively simple question Let me start with a deceptively simple question: in companionship, which matters more — quality or time? ...

“Software is eating the world.” — Marc Andreessen, 2011 “Now AI is eating software—and the question for the rest of us is: what’s left for one human, alone, in front of a screen?” — me, asking myself one night in 2026. Prologue: How Big Does One Person Need to Be? In February 2026, I ran my first complete overnight agent. I set a prompt, dropped it into Claude Code in a loop, and went to sleep. At 7 a.m. the next morning, what I saw on the screen was: 6 commits, 4 PRs, 3 auto-rolled-back failures, and a research brief I hadn’t even read myself. ...

Pascal wrote in the 17th century: “All of humanity’s problems stem from one thing: man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Three hundred years later, I thought of this sentence late at night in Lhasa, and added one more: They’re not sure who exactly is the one sitting in that room. Introduction: The 3 AM Emptiness For a while, I woke up almost every day at 3 AM. ...

In the vast sea of job hunting, a well-prepared resume acts like a well-designed sailboat, helping you navigate through the fierce waves of competition. With the flourishing development of the open-source community, many excellent resume building tools have emerged, designed to help job seekers create professional and personalized resumes at minimal cost. This article will introduce you to several top-tier open-source resume builders and provide practical tips for crafting and optimizing your resume. ...

Project Management - Google Edition I wrote an article before Project management from theory to practice . It introduces Github’s project management method, Github Projects, and cooperates with Github to realize the integration of the entire development and project management. However, some problems may arise. Today, let’s talk about the problems that may arise and give the corresponding solutions. Let’s summarize by the way. At this stage, I think it is the best practice method for project management of open source projects. ...

Flow State As I mentioned in my previous post on GTD and the Four Quadrant Rule Practice , I have been striving to enhance my focus and efficiency. Reflecting on the moments when I initially experienced the flow state, whether engrossed in a game or a novel, time seemed to stand still. The flow state is not just about the swift passage of time; it has profound effects on our lives, health, productivity, and even our sense of happiness. ...

GTD and the Quadrant Method Practice During the New Year holidays, I spent a lot of time reflecting. Alongside the growth and many merits over the past year, I also identified several shortcomings: Lack of proactive thought on prioritizing tasks A tendency to actively solve issues without much focus Difficulty in concentrating on completing specific TODOs Whenever I review my tasks, despite their number, I often feel a lack of clear judgment and thorough consideration. Sometimes, I might engage in a task because it seems crucial at the moment or out of a knee-jerk reaction, without truly assessing its priority or importance. This habit not only impacts my work efficiency but also prevents me from deep thinking and planning opportunities, which I aim to improve in the coming year. ...

My 2023 Annual Summary As 2023 swiftly draws to a close, my university life is nearing its end with just half a year remaining. A friend once said, “What’s frightening is not losing your passion for work, but never being able to find it again.” This year, I encountered many people and experienced numerous events, gradually shaping my world view. I’m fond of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and often reflect on my own state through it. I enjoy challenges, both in my work and hobbies (like hiking, cycling…). It seems I’ve successfully fulfilled the first four levels of Maslow’s theory: physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, and esteem needs. I’m probably at the stage of self-actualization needs. However, it’s worth mentioning that while Maslow’s theory is hierarchical, human needs aren’t always linear or fixed. For instance, someone at the self-actualization stage might still encounter needs from other levels at different times. If a person loses their job or faces financial difficulties, they may refocus on safety needs like financial security and stability. Similarly, the end of a close relationship or changes in one’s social network might reignite a desire for social needs. Even in everyday life, when we fall ill or feel hungry, our focus might temporarily shift from higher-level needs like self-actualization to physiological needs. ...

Hello, I am Xiong Xinwei. In the river of time, I’m so honored to step into this significant moment of my senior year. More than just a student, I’m passionate about writing those pulsating codes. Hence, I became an avid follower of open source. Welcome to explore my digital realm—My GitHub . Here, you will witness my love for technology, my third-generation blog, and I hope it becomes the ultimate link for my conversation with the world. ...