https://nsddd.top/tags/%E5%9B%9E%E9%81%BF%E5%9E%8B%E4%BE%9D%E6%81%8B-avoidant-attachment/ Tech blog by Xinwei Xiong — AI Builder, open source contributor and digital nomad sharing Kubernetes, Go, AI projects and travel. https://nsddd.top/assets/og-image.png https://nsddd.top/ Hugo -- gohugo.io en-us Tue, 30 Jun 2026 23:59:59 +0800 https://nsddd.top/growth/posts/2026-06-thought-notes/ Tue, 30 Jun 2026 23:59:59 +0800 Wed, 01 Jul 2026 02:33:21 +0800 熊鑫伟 (Xinwei Xiong) https://nsddd.top/growth/posts/2026-06-thought-notes/ In June I came back from Laos to Shenzhen. The dense, active records of the entire month were squeezed into the last ten days (June 21 to 30) — about thirty-nine conversations, almost all in Chinese. On the surface I was slack. Underneath I was thinking through hard things at high density. This piece breaks June into seven layers: the deepest psychological line — "I finally saw the mechanism of how I push people away" — and how the same move lives inside my career; Agent architecture and technical engineering; what to do and not do in product direction; the founder studies and the lesson that "incentive structure colonizes personality"; a handful of epistemological knives; and finally back to my own situation today — that the essence of disorientation is not insufficient effort, it is not yet recognizing what problem I have to solve. Growth Blog Monthly Notes Personal Reflection 回避型依恋 (Avoidant Attachment) 爱情 (Love) Agent 商业思考 (Business Thinking) 自我认知 (Self-Knowledge) AI思考 (AI Thinking)